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Is the shy, insecure child inside you holding you back from asking for feedback (or a testimonial)?

Yes, that's me. I was always a shy, insecure kid. (Can you tell?)

Well, it's precisely because I didn't want to continue being a shy, insecure grown-up that I pushed myself to go beyond my own. boundaries and self-doubts. I did extreme sports, became a professional speaker, put myself out there as a musician, and recorded a full-length album of original songs. Yes, you can find it on streaming platforms like Apple Music and Spotify.

But you know how you never really outgrow the child inside ... that child is always a part of who you are, right?

A few months ago, I was hired to present a virtual keynote to financial advisors across the country for a national insurance company.

In one of the meetings with the client before the event, they noticed the guitars on the wall behind me, and asked if I planned to sing an original song as part of my keynote.

I said, 'Well, uhmm, errrr, yes, for sure!'

Truth is, I've been wanting to do that for years, but was just waiting for the right opportunity.

I guess this was the opportunity.

Of course, I kept the bulk of my keynote in the realm of 'tried and true' -- rule number one in professional speaking -- but I changed my opening and my close to incorporate the musical element.

Not only did it require blending two related but different skillsets, it also demanded a more sophisticated technology and set-up. 

(Did I tell you that virtual keynotes can be more stressful than real, live ones? They are, but I'll save that for another newsletter.)

I wanted it to be better than 'good' and I wanted it to work flawlessly, so I asked the client for an extra sound check and tech run-through.

The shy, insecure child was afraid they'd think I was high-maintenance or a 'diva'.

The shy, insecure grown-up reasoned that no matter what they thought, an extra sound check was probably a good idea.

After the keynote, I did a debrief with the client. The shy, insecure child was afraid to mention the extra sound check.

The shy, insecure grown-up reasoned that no matter what they thought, asking how they felt about it was probably a good idea.

There's always something to learn, right? But I didn't expect this...

A testimonial...

"Michel, It’s always a challenge to keep people engaged in virtual presentations, but your name consistently came up as one of the favorite speakers of the conference — people were truly engaged by your stories and delivery. As an event planner, I’d also say that you were easy to work with. Plus, you went over and above in your preparedness, especially with the technology, which gave us confidence leading up to the conference."

Not bad, huh?

Don't let the shy, insecure child inside stop you from going beyond your self doubts... or asking for feedback.

It just may turn into a great testimonial!

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Michel Neray


What really drives me is helping companies and individuals to drill down to the core of their unique value and differentiation, and then craft their Essential Message' that attracts and connects with audiences and stakeholders... including customers, investors, strategic partners, and top talent. As a professional speaker, trainer, and consultant for over 30 years, I've worked with leaders and sales teams in more than nine countries around the world, from Montreal to Moscow, and from Israel to Iran.

I love to lead workshops, speak at conferences, and work with clients one on one.... as much as I love to spend time with family, paddle whitewater, ride my motorcycle (hard), and write and perform my songs...

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